Posts Tagged ‘perceptions’

Powerful Poem Titled “They”

Once again, one of our community members writes a beautiful poem which points out just how much our words matter. Thank you Bob Savage!

A note from Bob Savage who is living with dementia –

Inspiration came from a recent national conference workshop that I attended where staff from a dementia care facility described what they are doing to improve communication with the people living in their facility. They used “THEY” at least 15 times when referring to the people living in their facility during their presentation. Each time they used the word “THEY” my stomach would cringe.


By Bob Savage

 Who are these people who after one word we call them THEY

Did they have any choice as to why we call them THEY

Sometimes just one word (DEMENTIA) is why their THEY

Is a person any different after Dementia Diagnosed as THEY

We still love, hate, think, enjoy, cry, be depressed after THEY

We still love our family, friends, have enemies after THEY

We still love movies, parties, vacations, traveling after THEY

We still have emotional upsets, anger, frustrations after THEY

We do not like the loss of independence after THEY

We do not like the loss of social contact after THEY

We do not like people deciding and speaking for us after THEY

We do not like being a burden to those we love after THEY

We like to continue to speak for ourselves after our THEY

We like to be involved in all our decisions after our THEY

We like to set up new social contacts others after our THEY

We like to be accepted in our communities after our THEY

© of Bob Savage Living with Dementia 2018

If you would like to submit your poetry about dementia and caregiving make sure to include: The title of the piece Your by-line including your name as the author of the piece and any background or contact information you would like to share. Contact us  

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A New Perspective After Tragedy Hits – Dementia and the Golden Thread to Live Life Fully

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with Kristiane Cates

A New Perspective After Tragedy Hits –

Dementia and the Golden Thread to Live Life Fully

Dementia: The Golden Thread to Live Life Fully

Thursday we are lucky to have the passionate and powerful speaker Kristiane Cates who is the Author of “The Golden Thread, A Memoir.”In the book you will hear her tragic story of how and when thirty seconds changed everything in her life.  Kristiane will share with us her journey with dementia and how her path to healing after her son’s death has helped her prepare for the effects dementia has had on her life. Her mission is to demonstrate brave, audacious grace when dealing with life’s challenges.

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Today we discussed the impact of humor and laughter as perceptions of both change as the disease progresses. I think you might be surprised at some points made by those living with dementia during this conversation.

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Define What “Quality” Means to You

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University of Minnesota PhD candidate Heather Davila describes a survey to get input from people age 55+ family members, and professionals who work in the field of aging services about which aspects of “quality” in aging services matter most.

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An Important message from our friend Meryl Comer:

We want what you want when it comes to figuring out solutions to the challenges we all face on our personal Alzheimer’s journeys. Take the critical issue of recruitment for clinical trials. How do you figure out whether you or a loved one is eligible, or if there is even a trial or study close to home? These simple online tools from two trusted A-List partners will help you get started, so just click below to get started.

Roobrik: click here to take a free, 4-minute assessment to learn more about clinical research and decide whether participating in a research study is right for you. You will be asked a series of questions to help you understand how factors such as age and health can affect which studies you might be eligible for, and what exactly is involved in clinical studies.

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Please give us feedback on your experience and look out for the next round of decision tree tools on issues like “Is It Still Smart To Drive” and “Is Homecare Right For You.”

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   Perceptions – Alzheimer’s patient vs. Caregiver   

This is a personal story about my Mother and her perception of a situation verse my families perception of the situation.  Once again my Mother and her disease taught us all a great lesson  that I wanted to share with all Caregivers.   

Here is the link to our youtube channel at Alzheimer’s Speaks where you can watch the story 

“Spa Day at the VOA”   


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