Posts Tagged ‘Patience’

The Detoxing of Caregivers

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Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio – July 21st

2:00pm EST, 1:00pm CST, 12:00pm MST, 11:00am PST and 7:00pm London 


The Detoxing of Caregivers: Key Tips

for Survival, Strength and Patience

Thursday, July 21st, we will have Dr. Lawrence T. Force, a Gerontologist, who has worked in the field of aging and for over 30 years. Dr. Force is the Founder & CEO of AgePlan, a national advocacy and training organization.  Come and join the conversation.

Contact Information For Dr. Lawrence T. Force, Gerontologist                          

Email: drltforce@gmail.com                              

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The ABC’s of Dementia Awareness, Care and Support

The ABC’s of Dementia Awareness, Care and Support

Live on Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio 

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ABC approach pic of maryOur first guest will be Mary Crescenzo, who provides professional development training for staff in the implementation of quality arts programming with those with Alzheimer’s, and facilitates for caregivers. Mary is also an award winning playwright whose drama, Planet A, about Alzheimer’s, has been staged in New York throughout the U.S..

Contact Mary via Facebook at: ABC Approach to Alzheimer’s Awareness and Care Through the Arts


singing int he rain authors pic togetherOur second guests will be Vicky Ruppert cared for her husband for 19 years with Alzheimer’s of the familial variety (APOE4)and Ann Henderberg who cared for her husband with Lewy body disease for 7 years. Together they joined forces to support one another and have written a book titled, “Singing In The Rain: Weathering The Storm of Dementia With Humor, Love, & Patience.

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In Their Eyes

In Their Eyes

By: Michelle Remold

I remember in about middle school when I started to learn about the importance of eye contact. For the longest time I would try to avoid having to make eye contact at all costs because I thought it was awkward. As with many things, as I got older I learned the value in being able to maintain eye contact with others. Eye contact has been especially helpful when I am interacting with those who have Alzheimer’s or dementia.

Eyes can give away so much information. Many times I am able to tell someone may have a memory impairment before I am told about it, just by making eye contact. I often find that people with Alzheimer’s or dementia have ‘cloudy eyes’ and that even when they do appear to make eye contact they seem to be looking past me.

For me, eyes and eye contact are always important when communicating with others. Eyes can convey happiness, sadness, anger, or empathy. They can give us glimmers of those we lost to memory loss, if you just look for the glint in their eye. People’s eyes can tell us a story, you just need to take them time to make eye contact and listen to what they say.

???????????????????????????????Michelle graduated from the University of Northern Iowa with her Bachelor of Arts in Gerontology: Social Sciences and a minor in Family Studies. She is currently pursuing her Master’s degree in Aging Studies and Nursing Home Administration from Minnesota State University Mankato.

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Not Just Your Run of The Mill Resolution

By: Michelle Remold

With the start of a new year just around the corner everyone is coming up with new resolutions for the year. For some, these resolutions include things such as losing weight, walking more, not eating out as much or just all around being healthier.  While these are good resolutions, why not make Alzheimer’s or dementia the focus of just one of your resolutions? There are many ways to do this.

Learn more about Alzheimer’s and dementia. Expanding one’s knowledge isn’t a bad thing. Learn more about these diseases or just even take a look at the statistics. Each person who learns about Alzheimer’s and dementia is another person who can help spread awareness and who can share information on these diseases. I like to read personal stories about people who have been affected by Alzheimer’s or dementia, it helps to give me a feel for how each diagnosis is truly different.

Volunteer with people who have Alzheimer’s or dementia. Skilled nursing facilities love volunteers. You can volunteer to do a variety of things. Help with activities on a dementia care wing, help bring residents to activities, be a companion to someone with dementia or their caregiver; there are so many possibilities, it just takes time to find them and one that would interest you and fit your skills.

Learn how to interact with those with Alzheimer’s or dementia. Much of this will come from experience, but once you learn how to interact, it doesn’t go away. I think that in learning how to interact with two grandparents with Alzheimer’s and dementia, and the residents where they, lived has taught me to be a more compassionate and more patient person in general. You never know what you might learn.

Each of these ideas can be rewarding and help expand one’s knowledge of Alzheimer’s and dementia. Whatever your resolutions are for this year, I wish everyone the best of luck and a great 2014.

008Michelle graduated from the University of Northern Iowa with her Bachelor of Arts in Gerontology: Social Sciences and a minor in Family Studies. She is currently pursuing her Master’s degree in Aging Studies and Nursing Home Administration from Minnesota State University Mankato.

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Patience is a Virtue

By: Michelle Remold

    Patience is something I think many people lack. We seem to want everything done when it’s most convenient for us and don’t want to wait. I admit that when it comes to some things, I can be very impatient. Having to wait in a long line when I am in a hurry can really test my patience.  Now imagine you are in a nursing home on a dementia care wing or are caregiving for someone who has Alzheimer’s or dementia and you are being asked the same question over and over. Who are you? Where is my mom? What are you doing? Answering these questions a few times is usually tolerable, but when they are asked every few minutes, it can be taxing.

When being asked the same question multiple times throughout the course of a day or even an hour, it is very easy to become annoyed and raise your voice.  The patient doesn’t know they have just asked you this question, to them they are asking it for the first time. As annoyed as you may be, think about how confusing it is for them. They just asked a question and the response they received was short or they feel as though they were being yelled at. I know I’d be confused if I asked someone a question and the first response I received was being yelled at. I wouldn’t understand why my question was responded to in that way.

I understand how hard it can be to ‘keep your cool’ while being asked these questions. While visiting a nursing home recently a resident kept asking where her mom was. At first my response was that we didn’t know where she was. After a while though she asked again, but added that she had thought her mom went somewhere and that she would be back soon. My response, “I think your right. I remember her saying she needed to go to the store.” The resident happily responded with, “Oh yes, she went to get eggs and will be back in a half hour.”  Within a few minutes this scenario replayed itself and kept replaying itself for two hours. I just kept telling her that her mom had gone to the store and she would be back shortly. When I look back my second response seemed to be the most logical, as it wouldn’t be comforting that no one knew where your mom was when asked. By giving her this answer, we put her anxiety to rest, even if it was just for a few minutes at a time.

This all comes down to patience. Patience is something I learned at a young age. I can remember visiting my grandpa and asking him if he knew who I was. I was seven and didn’t understand the disease. I would introduce myself over and over in hopes that if I said it enough, it would help. I remember figuring out that if I would talk slow enough, I would be able to get a reaction, even if it was just a smile. I remember bringing puzzles for my grandpa to do and as time went on we would take twenty minutes to put together a ten piece puzzle. I quickly learned that we could still do things, they might just take longer and that having to answer repeated questions wasn’t a big deal, at least we were interacting. My increasing patience became clear with other residents. I remember being asked by a resident to button the cuffs on his shirt and everyone was surprised when I stopped to do it. I contribute my chosen career path to these early encounters on a dementia care wing. I think that these individuals taught me patience in a way that is invaluable and that I wouldn’t have learned anywhere else.

My advice is to take a deep breath and repeat the answer for the umpteenth time. Let them teach you patience and just value the interaction. Patience is a good quality to have. Patience is a virtue.

008Michelle graduated from the University of Northern Iowa with her Bachelor of Arts in Gerontology: Social Sciences and a minor in Family Studies. She is currently pursuing her Master’s degree in Aging Studies and Nursing Home Administration from Minnesota State University Mankato.

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