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Accepting Dementia

Accepting Dementia in Your Life

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Lori La Bey, founder of Alzheimer’s Speaks created Dementia Chats so the world could hear directly from those living with dementia, since truth be told, they are the experts! Listen to this wonderful conversation with Laurie Scherrer and Paulan Gordon on their thoughts and insights as to why it’s important to learn to live with dementia and how they have done it themselves! Please feel free to share your thoughts with us. We love to hear from our audience.

Dementia Chats – Those Living with Dementia Talk Openly

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I want to echo the thanks and appreciation of my colleagues… Your presentations were movingly authentic, fully engaging and wonderfully informative. Thank you for all that you are doing, and all that you’ve done for us!

Carla Koehl, Director of Community RelationsArtis Senior Living of Lexington

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Life With Dementia – Why It Is So Important For Us To Listen To Those Diagnosed

Life With Dementia –

Why It Is So Important For Us To Listen

To Those Diagnosed

This is one of the most interesting and thorough book reviews I’ve ever read.  Eilon Caspi, Ph.D. really has done a nice job breaking down Michael Ellenbogen’s book, From the Corner Office to Alzheimer’s for us,  He so simply shares critical insights for those diagnosed, families caring for loved ones as well as professionals.  Please read the excellent review below.

Michael ellenbogen book cover

I’ve been in the aging field for 20 years, the last 10 of which solely focusing on various issues related to improving the quality of care and life of persons with dementia. Nothing has taught me more about the lived experience, struggles, and hopes of persons with Younger-Onset Dementia than this book.

Many people think they understand dementia but they don’t really have a nuanced understanding of what it actually means to live with it. This book is precious because it helps bridge this major gap.

You often learn about discrete aspects of the lived experience of persons with dementia but rarely have an opportunity to get a holistic and ongoing picture of a person’s journey through the early stages of dementia.

The best educational materials usually come from persons living with dementia. The knowledge from inside out is unparalleled in value and could be an effective vehicle for change in our culture and approach towards persons living with dementia.

With this book, Michael gives us a rare opportunity to come closer to understanding the avalanche of losses and emotional pain caused by dementia. As importantly, it demonstrates how misinformed perceptions about persons living with dementia can have tremendous effects on the person’s psychological well-being.

Through his persistent commitment to detailed documentation of his daily experiences, Michael teaches us about the emotional roller coaster commonly experienced by persons with dementia on a daily basis.

Through his experiences we learn about serious gaps in services, programs, and policies that cause tremendous frustration and suffering to persons with dementia. These often under-recognized issues in our communities and society limit these individuals’ ability to reach their full potential and preserve their dignity. They also prevent family members from getting the support and respite they sorely need.

The insights and lessons shared in the book (such as the long and excruciating journey for getting a diagnosis) will prove critical for many others who currently experience early signs of dementia as well as for those who will develop dementia in the future. They will substantially reduce the suffering of these individuals and their family members, save precious years of life, and help minimize loss of income.
The book could also be used as an excellent teaching tool for various health professionals who are committed to truly understanding the lived experience of persons with Young-Onset Dementia and the wide spectrum of cognitive disabilities caused by this set of conditions. This, as Michael points out, while taking into account that every person is impacted by the disease differently and Michael’s experience may not be representative of all persons with similar conditions.

If used to inform educational materials and training programs, the heartbreaking examples in the book could help improve practices, skills, and sensitivities of diagnostic centers / memory clinics and ensure that clinicians will always listen to persons with dementia and take their concerns seriously.

The struggles experienced by Michael also include numerous frustrations at home in general and with loving, caring, and dedicated family members. The insights shared about these struggles will go a long way in educating family members in dealing with these issues (e.g., denial of dementia, misperceptions, helpful communication techniques, finding joy, and safety issues). They will increase sensitivity among family members to the person. The book also shows how the power of love can sustain persons with dementia in their constant efforts to maintain hope.

The devastating financial impact of the disease on Michael and his family is an underlying theme throughout the book. This knowledge could be used to inform initiatives that will transform federal and state agencies’ decision-making processes, practices, guidelines – and eventually laws that govern and oversee operations of these agencies – to ensure that lifelong hard work of citizens will not be forgotten during times of dementia-related disability and that their rights for financial security will be protected.

The book could be used to increase sensitivity among employers to employees who gave their heart and soul for many years to ensure the financial stability and success of their companies. No dedicated and honest employee should go through what Michael has gone through when he was fired from his 18-year job. We must find ways to ensure that employers will become dementia-friendly and treat their employees with dignity during times of disability.

An excellent chapter in the book is dedicated to important considerations and suggestions pertaining to the process of applying for disability benefits (written by an experienced attorney – John Tucker, Tucker & Ludin, Legal Solutions).

The book addresses other important issues such difficulties with short-term memory, reading and writing, reaching desired destinations, the impact of the physical environment (e.g., noise), driving; dementia work-up for doctors; and assisted suicide. It also provides a strong reminder that persons with dementia may experience other health conditions that tremendously impact their quality of life.

Using numerous examples, Michael teaches us about how he copes (often creatively) with the many functional, cognitive, and psychological losses and challenges along the way. The book contains dozens of concrete suggestions, tips, and helpful resources for dealing with the limitations imposed dementia and those caused by others’ misperceptions, lack of awareness, and insensitivities.

The book also highlights the urgent need of our society to develop dementia-friendly work and volunteer opportunities to ensure that the wealth of life experience, knowledge, professional skills, and wisdom of persons with dementia will be used wisely and creatively to benefit our local communities and give life-sustaining meaning and purpose to these individuals.

The book could inform efforts to reduce the harmful stigma commonly held about persons with dementia and in so doing increase the likelihood that these individuals will be approached with empathy and respect.

It is a powerful, honest, and inspiring testament of the strength and resiliency of the human spirit despite a cruel disease, its many devastating and heartbreaking impacts, and the lack of awareness and sensitivity in our society to this condition.

I highly recommend you to receive this precious (if not life saving) gift Michael has given us. It was an extremely frustrating process for Michael to write the book with his cognitive limitations and we should be grateful that he found the inner strength to complete the writing with the help and support from his wife and his family.

In the words of the late Prof. Tom Kitwood, author of the groundbreaking book Dementia Reconsidered: The Person Comes First,

“People with dementia may have something important to teach the rest of humankind. If we make the venture one of genuine and open engagement, we will learn a great deal about ourselves.”

Reading this book will bring us one solid step closer to the realization that at the end of the day we are all interdependent on each other and that only with this deep understanding we will be in a position to realize Michael’s vision for a truly dementia-friendly society.
Hope you’ll find the book useful as I did,

Yours sincerely,

Eilon Caspi, Ph.D.

Center for Prevention of Resident to Resident Aggression In Dementia

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Michael’s Story


Living With Dementia

Check out Michael’s beautifully written story of what life is really like, living with dementia.  Katie Couric featured his article on her program yesterday where she covered the disease. 

Kudos Michael for connecting with Katie! 

Keep up the great work.

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If you are not familiar with Richard Taylor you need to be!

Richard is living with dementia probably the Alzheimer’s type.  He has now dedicated his life to Shifting Our Dementia Care Culture world wide. He has one of the best newsletters out on dementia.  If you haven’t had a chance to see him in person then buy one of his  new DVD’s or books.  Each is amazing and filled with practical tips and thoughts that will challenge your beliefs and your desires and purpose in life.

From a Real Man Living with a Very Real Disease

Richard will teach you amazing things about living as a compassionate human being, developing tolerance, and finding joy and purpose in life.

Here is the link to his website.

Here is the link to his new DVD’s

Oh and don’t forget about Richards book: Alzheimer’s From the Inside Out

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