Posts Tagged ‘John Sweeney’

Fabulous Fiblets And Sundowner Symptoms

Fabulous Fiblets

By John Sweeney, Care Partner for his wife Virginia

Every since the “sundowner’s” episodes commenced about 3 years ago, I would try to convince my wife, Virginia that this is her home.  Show her pictures, furniture and clothes to convince her.  It wasn’t working, her “dreams” were very real to her and she would think that I had her confused with someone else.   About a year ago, with the good counsel of people like Sue from the memory cafe and Carolyn from “The Gathering”  I started “getting in the moment” with her, not arguing about the facts, but role playing in the time she was in.   This was uncomfortable for me at first, as it didn’t seem natural to be deceptive to the love of my life.   But it gave her comfort and takes the trauma out of it. 

Although it shouldn’t have been uncomfortable, as the Irish (which I’m one of) are known for fibbing! 

Frequently Virginia gets visibly upset because she can’t find “the little girl, or the little boy.”  She worries that she has done something wrong in his/her care.   My response, “he/she was just visiting with us and he/she is back home with his/her parents”. Again, this solves the concern at the moment. 

Care giving is mostly “on the job training”  it usually gets better with more experience.


Thank you so much for sharing your insights with our community John.  I’m sure it will help many.

We are so gratefully to have you and Virginia participate in Arthur’s Memory Cafe

Lori La Bey, Founder of Alzheimer’s Speaks

Looking for a Keynoter, Consultant or Trainer?

See what LeadingAge has to say about Lori La Bey

 “Feedback from the conference planning committee and our leadership team was extremely positive. Many attendees commented that she was one of the best speakers they had heard.” 

Pat Sylvia, Director of Education & Member Development LeadingAge Washington

For More Testimonials

Click Below to Download the Tips


Read Full Post »

Memory Cafe Members Are Panelists In Education Forum

Members of Arthur’s Memory Cafe in Roseville were panelists at an educational event called “Finding Comfort In Caring For Those With Memory Loss.”  The program was held Wednesday July 10th at the Fairview Community Center.  It was sponsored by the Roseville Area Senior Program and  Arthur’s Residential Care

George_and_annie_SeilerGeorge and Annie Seiler, are Members of Arthur’s Memory Cafe

Photo compliments of Roseville Patch.  For full article click here.

Janell Wampler, Program Coordinator for the Roseville Area Schools/Senior Program opened the program by highlighting all the great resources Roseville offers their community.

The panelist from Arthur’s Memory Cafe where:  Oliver and Dixielee Dufrene, George and Annie Seiler and John Sweeney who cares for his wife Virginia.

 Melissa Seeley, with Senior Community Services talked about a new technology which helps caregivers stay organized and in touch called CareNextion.org.

Kristin Ptichford for Arthur’s Residential Care shared information about how their small group homes provide intimate care in a home-like environment.

Lori La Bey, Founder of Alzheimer’s Speaks also presented new views on our dementia care culture, including an overview of what a Memory Cafe is, who it is for and what people can expect when they come.

“We have people who drive one hour one way to come to our meeting!” say s La Bey. “We Know there are others in the area who would also benefit from these fun groups.”

J. Arthur’s Memory Cafe meets on the 2nd & 4th Wednesdays of the month, from 1-3pm  at J. Arthur’s Coffee Shop located at 2441 Rice Street in Roseville, Minnesota.   Feel free to call us us as well.  La Bey can be reached at 651-748-4714 or call the coffee shop at (651) 294-4782.

For more resources visit Alzheimer’s Speaks Website


Read Full Post »

%d bloggers like this: