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Valentines Day: The Side Not Talked About

Valentines Day  –

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The Darker Side

Most people think of love, happiness and joy on Valentines Day. The day is wrapped around those currently in our life as we celebrate our relationships.  Tokens of love like flowers, chocolate and jewelry allowing those feeling to linger, but for many others Valentines Day can be extremely painful.

The loss of a loved one in our life can trigger thoughts of longing for what once was.  Grief can take hold as tears roll down ones face and and the heart longs for the precious connection it once had. The longing of physical touch; a kiss, a hug or just holding hands is no longer possible.

For some, the pain of loss lingers way past the day marked on the calendar as Valentines Day.  For some, each and every holiday triggers the loss of the physical presence of the one they loved.

Earlier this week, I was in Indiana and Illinois at three Clarendale properties doing screenings of “His Neighbor Phil.” At the last screening, a woman in the audience can up and gave me a beautiful poem about love and loss. I wanted to share it with all of you.

The Poem is Titled

“Grief is the Price of Love”

The Author is Unknown

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May this poem give those grieving some peace of mind and heart knowing the greatest gift one can receive in a life time, comes with two price tags…. grief and gratitude.

May we all be lucky enough to love so deeply and completely to feel both “grief for a great love” knowing it’s “sister gratitude” will help fill the holes in our heart and help us find peace in our life once again.

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Forget-Me-Not

Forget-Me-Not

 

By:Michelle Remold

As I sat down to write this post, I decided to do a little research on ‘Forget-Me-Not’ flowers because they are commonly associated with Alzheimer’s and dementia. The story behind the flower’s name is quite interesting. The flower appears to have been used in many countries for various reasons ranging from remembering those lost in war to remembering what causes they were advocating for.

Forget-Me-Nots are used to ‘remember’ many things and I cannot think of a more fitting flower to be associated with Alzheimer’s and dementia. Not only is there meaning in the name, but in the history of the flower’s name as well. Personally, my favorite flowers are Birds of Paradise and Orchids, but for no other reason than I think that they are gorgeous. When I think about Forget-Me-Not flowers though, I think that they can be used for many things.

The first thing that comes to mind is giving someone Forget-Me-Nots when moving away. However, I think that if dementia care wings have outdoor areas, that Forget-Me-Nots would be a nice addition. Forget-Me-Nots can mean don’t forget who I was as the disease progresses, don’t forget me as time moves on, and don’t forget the memories you have with me.

The sentiment behind Forget-Me-Not flowers is simple and very clear. They are tiny beautiful flowers that merely make a simple request; Forget-Me-Not.

???????????????????????????????Michelle graduated from the University of Northern Iowa with her Bachelor of Arts in Gerontology: Social Sciences and a minor in Family Studies. She is currently pursuing her Master’s degree in Aging Studies and Nursing Home Administration from Minnesota State University Mankato.

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