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Finding Joy in The Midst of The Coronavirus

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Hi everyone, I’m Lori La Bey, Founder of Alzheimer’s Speaks. The Coronavirus has most of us spinning in worry and fear of what is going to happen next. I have been working hard behind the scenes to console many scared souls around the world and arranging some new supportive avenues for this strange time we are living in which I will be announcing soon. I thought sharing a personal story to show an example of what fills my heart and gives me joy during this difficult time might be helpful. I hope you enjoy the short video below.

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Share with us where and how you find joy in a chaotic time.

As I sit at home in self isolation, due to my travels last week, before everything started shutting down, I got to thinking.  I like most, want to stay informed, but keep a sense of balance.  So many people are grappling to maintain a sense of control over their lives. 

I believe the gift of wisdom from living through many tough and blessed moments teaches us to let go of that we can’t control. For me, three life changing moments stand out: my father’s cancer, my mother’s dementia and my divorce. Each one of us have our own moments in time both big and small that impact us.

What are yours?

My situations have taught me to forge ahead in a conscious manner, getting clear on what I wanted from each situation.  It was these “out of control times” that brought me back to the basics. I figured out the more I adjusted my needs and wants to be simple, the calmer I felt. The stress melted away.

By focusing on being safe, happy and content, I become more grateful, more present, and more appreciative of small things like this picture of my toenails.

As Maya Angelou said,  “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did,  but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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Listen To Our Panel Discussion On The Coronavirus

How Is The Corona Virus Affecting You And Those You Care For With Dementia? Listen in as people talk about their feelings, fears, plans and ideas!

Please leave a comment.  We would love to hear from.

Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio shifting dementia care from crisis to comfort around the world one episode at a time by raising all voices and delivering sounds news, not just sound bites since 2011.

All shows on Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio are accessible to listen to at anytime to once they go live – Enjoy.

Lori La Bey Can Help Your Organization Switch To Virtual Presentations For Staff Trainings, Family Support, Perspective Clients and Support Gatherings.

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We would love to here your thoughts and comments on this tip.

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Dementia Chats – Those Living with Dementia Talk Openly

See What Others Have Say About Lori La Bey

I want to echo the thanks and appreciation of my colleagues… Your presentations were movingly authentic, fully engaging and wonderfully informative. Thank you for all that you are doing, and all that you’ve done for us!

Carla Koehl, Director of Community RelationsArtis Senior Living of Lexington

 “Feedback from the conference planning committee and our leadership team was extremely positive. Many attendees commented that she was one of the best speakers they had heard.” 

Pat Sylvia, Director of Education & Member Development LeadingAge WA

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This Is Great Gift Idea For A Family Dealing With Dementia

Parental Dementia – A guide through all the difficult questions. Author Keith Galas, is an Executive Director with 20 years’ experience and has helped families with all their difficult questions. Every chapter in the book covers a question he gets most from families.

Parental Dementia – A guide through all the difficult questions is available through Amazon, Walmart and Barnes and Noble, but if you go to www.parentaldementia.com  all Alzheimer’s Speaks listeners can get a discount by using the code word, Lori.

Available in eBook now as well

Downloadable Tips Below

Find A Memory Café In Your Area

Push Dementia Forward – Participate!

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How Is Covid 19 Affecting You And Those You Care For With Dementia?

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How Is The Corona Virus Affecting You And Those You Care For With Dementia? Let’s talk about your feelings, fears, plans and ideas!

We understand this is a very scary time for most everyone around the world and we want to have an honest conversation without judgement and let people share their thoughts, their feelings, their fears, their plans, their ideas. 

We want to know how you are adjusting to the changes occurring daily from interactions with family, friends, social circles as well as medical appointments, adult day care. To community care for a loved one; to jobs, schools and churches closings; to transportation, shopping, travel, fitness centers and grocery stores… We want to hear from you and how the corona virus is affecting you. 

Our host, Lori La Bey is excited to facilitate this important conversation and as usual wants to hear the voices of those living with dementia, families caring for them as well as professionals and businesses supporting dementia care.

 Alzheimer’s Speaks was built with a foundation of giving voice to all and helping people feel comfortable discussing tough issues in a respectful way.  We hope you will join the conversation! 

Please leave a comment.  We would love to hear from.

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Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio shifting dementia care from crisis to comfort around the world one episode at a time by raising all voices and delivering sounds news, not just sound bites since 2011.

All shows on Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio are accessible to listen to at anytime to once they go live – Enjoy.

Lori La Bey Can Help Your Organization Switch To Virtual Presentations For Staff Trainings, Family Support, Perspective Clients and Support Gatherings.

Click Below To Watch Dementia Quick Tip #9

We would love to here your thoughts and comments on this tip.

Click Below To Watch the Video on Suicide and Right to Die

Dementia Chats – Those Living with Dementia Talk Openly

See What Others Have Say About Lori La Bey

I want to echo the thanks and appreciation of my colleagues… Your presentations were movingly authentic, fully engaging and wonderfully informative. Thank you for all that you are doing, and all that you’ve done for us!

Carla Koehl, Director of Community RelationsArtis Senior Living of Lexington

 “Feedback from the conference planning committee and our leadership team was extremely positive. Many attendees commented that she was one of the best speakers they had heard.” 

Pat Sylvia, Director of Education & Member Development LeadingAge WA

For More Testimonial

                                            Diana Pierce and Lori La Bey

This Is Great Gift Idea For A Family Dealing With Dementia

Parental Dementia – A guide through all the difficult questions. Author Keith Galas, is an Executive Director with 20 years’ experience and has helped families with all their difficult questions. Every chapter in the book covers a question he gets most from families.

Parental Dementia – A guide through all the difficult questions is available through Amazon, Walmart and Barnes and Noble, but if you go to www.parentaldementia.com  all Alzheimer’s Speaks listeners can get a discount by using the code word, Lori.

Available in eBook now as well

Downloadable Tips Below

Find A Memory Café In Your Area

Push Dementia Forward – Participate!

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Depression, Sadness, Grief & Dementia

Depression, Sadness, Grief & Dementia

Dementia Chats™ was created with the intention to educate people living with dementia; their care partners both family and friends as well as professionals and advocates.  Our Experts are those diagnosed with dementia. We have been doing this series since July of 2012.
Today we discussed the following:
Depression, Grief, Sadness and Dementia
Today we address the following:
Dementia vs Depression
Grief, sadness and depression
Dementia and loneliness
Added stress for Care Partners due to loneliness
Quiet isn’t always lonely
Fear and depression
Advocacy and purpose can replace fear and depression
Depression is a personal experience
Sadness vs Depression
Look for things to be grateful for
Does loneliness have to do with how we grew up?
Care Partners are afraid of saying anything that might upset their person with dementia.
A sadness felt by both sides for different reasons
Listen and validate feelings
“Happy Places” can shift sadness and depression
Everyone with dementia is different and has their own “Happy Places.”
Thank You To Our Experts Living With Dementia:
Harry Urban
Laurie Scherrer
Bob Savage
Truthful Loving Kindness
Brian LeBlanc
Susan Suchan
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Join the fun at one of the events in eight different cities where you can participate in an extraordinary workout and panel discussion.  Leeza Gibbons  will be the moderator.  All you have to do is sign up online and commit to a fundraising minimum of $250.00.

Check Out The Panel of Experts

• Dr. Daniel Amen, M.D. – Brain Health 

 • Tana Amen – Nutritionist

• Katy Bowman – Biomechanist

 • Mallika Chopra– Meditation Expert

•  Dr. Joshua Grill, Ph.D. – Alzheimer’s Research

•  Lori La Bey– Caregiving / Alzheimer’s & Dementia Activist

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Dementia: The Gift of Loving What You Do

 The Gift of Loving What You Do

by Lori La Bey, Founder of Alzheimer’s Speaks

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Have you ever asked yourself,

“What Do I love to do?”

Have you ever found figuring out what you love to do is difficult?

You may be asking what does this have to do with dementia or caregiving? Please read to the end and you will see how the dots connected for me.

Most of us have asked our self the question, but few taken the risk to follow their path of passion. As a society we have not been taught to value what we love to do, but rather what we are perceived as being “good at doing.”   Typically this is led by the money stream:

  • How will you support yourself?
  • How will you keep up with the Jones?
  • How will you provide for your family?
  • How will you take that vacation or save for retirement?
  • How will you… and the list goes on.

Taking the risk to do what you love is

by no means without challenges

I know as I decided to take the road of passion with the work I do. The difference I’ve found in those challenges that come before me is simple. They are mine, by choices I have made.

They are not coming from a talking head at corporate that doesn’t understand my job and sometimes is so far removed from serving the customer, they no longer see or feel the true needs of the client. Most corporate structures follow the bottom line… the money trail; which I totally understand and respect. But in addition to the money trail, most organizations also are afraid of failure at any level within their company. This in my opinion is a huge mistake. One which stifles creativity, production, connection with their client base and others within the organization.

The fun and exciting part of doing what one loves,

is the fear of failure melts away.

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It is replaced with an even stronger fear!

It is replaced with an even stronger fear, one of not trying to improve a situation. It also allows one to have the authority to decide and to take responsibility for outcomes. This is how we build leaders, not followers.

When challenges hit, you have three choices:

  • Ignore it and pretend it isn’t there – Denial
  • Acknowledge the challenge, but do nothing – Doormat Syndrome
  • Recognize the challenge and try to improve the situation – Do Something!

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For those that follow their passion,

I’ve found they inherently chose the later.

I have found those doing what they love have highly defined and refined instincts. They are so zoned into to what they love to do, they see and feel things in different ways and on different levels. Most can see the big picture, yet can intimately see and meet individual needs in unique ways. They step out of the typical box we are taught “how things are supposed to be done,” and they get creative knowing if things were so great there wouldn’t be a need to change!

The truth is so many companies’ get comfortable thinking they have things figured out. They forget that life and consumer needs are fluid and change constantly. In order to consistently meet consumer needs we must constantly be looking for:

  • New trends
  • New needs
  • New or expanded consumer base
  • New ways to improve successful systems
  • New ways reduce costs
  • New ways to improve customer satisfaction

These are the things that define successful brands

So what is holding you back from doing what you love? Is it money? Is it peer pressure? Is it the perception of not being who everyone thinks you are? Or who you think you are supposed to be? I’ve found the reasons people stay put are long and varied and most have multiple reasons to stay put.

Change is not easy for most

Change is not easy for most of us. Yet, I have found change very satisfying. I’ve also found my priorities in life have change immensely. What was once a priority is no longer important. Life is simpler and more satisfying. I’m not saying making this type of change is for everyone, but I would love you to think about it.

Think of a world where people actually loved their work

Think of a world where people actually loved their work. A world where people showed up because they wanted to be there and wanted to help make a positive difference; verse just to get a paycheck and health insurance. What would that world feel like? How much kinder would the world be as a whole?

I feel I have been give one of the most precious gifts in the world. One that came to me through the back door. One I never would have wished for. One I could not have imagined.

My world changed due to my Mothers dementia. Her 30 year journey showed me the need for individuals, organizations and the world as a whole to be better. To do better.  Have more compassionate hearts and more creative minds. Less Judgment and more grace. More awareness of others needs and our own impact on others.

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Don’t Let “Nay Sayers” Kill Your Dreams

If I would have listened to all the “Nay Sayers,” I never would have been able to do what I’ve done with Alzheimer’s Speaks. Baby steps and exploring options to meet needs in new ways has been my driving force. Believing we are all capable of great things. Being able to make decision without going through all the politics of a large company or organization has been a blessing.  Alzheimer’s Speaks is a one woman show, me. Check out our collaborative efforts that haven’t cost a lot of money or taken a lot of time. Working on a shoe string has its gifts.  It forces one to get creative or give up.

What might you do if you embraced

what you love to do?

What might you embrace if you did what you loved to do?   Surrounding yourself with liked minded people who are filled with passion for what they love to do is an extraordinary experience. Your passions don’t even have to align.

It is peoples belief systems that connect us

on a deeper level. One which:

  • Lifts your spirits when down
  • Helps you brainstorm when navigating new territory
  • Celebrates your accomplishments without a hidden agenda
  • Encourages you to be and do the best you can

Investigate the Possibility of who you can be.

Thank you Mom for sharing your life with me through all the twists and turns; and especially the thirty year journey with dementia. You taught me more than I ever thought possible. I promise I will continue to share the knowledge and love you shared with me to help others.

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