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Grief & Family Educator Dementia: Caring & Coping During the Pandemic # 5 of 8

Wednesday – Feb. 3rd, 2021 – 2pm EST, 1pm CST, 12pm MST, 11am PST & 6pm London, 8pm South Africa and on the 4th, at 5am in Australia AET

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Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio has partnered with the Roseville Alzheimer’s and Dementia Community Action Team to provide resource information for caregivers and people living with dementia during the pandemic.

Today Lori La Bey talks with Ted Bowman a grief and family educator. For over 12 years, he has facilitated a caregiver support group and has taught courses at both the Universities of Minnesota and St. Thomas. Ted is also an author and a popular speaker.   One who has walked his talk through personal loss.

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Dementia Chats is a series of video conversations where we talk with the true experts on dementia, those living with a diagnosis. Lori La Bey, founder of Alzheimer’s Speaks facilitates a conversation and is amazed by every conversation what she learns about life with dementia. She encourages everyone not only to watch these videos, but to include those living with dementia in conversations and to listen closely to their insights. They know dementia better than anyone.

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Learn how and why this directory is critical to those living with dementia, their family & friends, as well as professionals in the industry.

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Join the show live Tuesday Sept 24th at 2pm EST, 1pm CST, 12pm MST, 11am PST & 7pm London and on the 25th at 6am in Australia

Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio – Shifting dementia care from crisis to comfort around the world one episode at a time by raising all voices and delivering sounds news, not just sound bites.

Welcome to Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio where we shift dementia care from crisis to comfort around the world one episode at a time by raising all voices and delivering sounds news, not just sound bites.

Today Lori La Bey talks with Sandra Durbin “The Caregiver Coach.”  Come and join our conversation by calling in and asking your questions or adding a comment.  Here’s the phone number:  (323) 870-4602.  Learn how a caregiver coach can assist you and how they will connect with you. 

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Reframing “Behaviors” with Dementia Behavioralist – Geert Bettinger

Tune in Thursday – April 4th 2pm EST, 1pm CST, 12pm MST, 11am PST, 7pm London and 6am Friday the 3rd in Australia

We are thrilled to have Geert Bettinger, a Dementia Behavioralist back with us.  Geert is from the Netherlands, but travels the world spreading his message which helps us all have better relationships by having a better understanding of what a behavior is and why it exists.  His sensible and compassionate approach will change the way you think about an unwanted reaction and how you deal with it, no matter if you are dealing with a person with dementia, your partner, a friend or a child.

Contact Geert Bettinger at:

Email:  g.bettinger@ziggo.nl

Website:  www.geertbettinger.com

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Phone: 031637410200 (the Netherlands)

Skype-address: g.bettinger@ziggo.nl

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Saturday, April 6th – 10:30am – 12:30pm

Film Screening & Talk Back

A Timeless Love”

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Wednesday, April 10th – 9:00am- 12:00pm

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“A Day in the Life of Dementia”

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Wednesday, April 10th – 5:00pm – 8:00pm

Educational Program

“A Day in the Life of Dementia”

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Thursday, April 11th – 10:00am – 12:00pm

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“His Neighbor Phil”

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Thursday, April 11th – 6:00pm – 8:00pm

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“His Neighbor Phil”

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Friday, April 19th – 10:30am – 12:30pm

Educational Program

“Dementia Care Is Changing, Are You?”

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Friday, April 26th – 10:30am – 12:30pm

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“Realities of Dementia – Family Friendly Tools & Tips”

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1260 East Co. Rd. E, Vadnais Heights, MN 55110

Friday, May 3rd – 10:30am – 12:30pm

Educational Program

“As the Cookie Crumbles”

Gable Pines at Vadnais Heights      651-829-3171

1260 East Co. Rd. E, Vadnais Heights, MN 55110

Friday, May 10th – 10:30am – 12:30pm

Film Screening & Talk Back

“A Timeless Love”

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Friday, May 17th  – 10:30am – 12:30pm

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“Shifting from Crisis to Comfort”

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A Vaccine for Dementia? Join Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio for this Conversation

Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio 

with Dr Ajay Verma

Tuesday, May 29th, 2018 at 2pm EST, 1pm CST, 12pm MST, 11am PST

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Dr. Ajay Verma, Chief Medical Officer at United Neuroscience will join Lori La Bey host of Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio.  They will discuss current therapies for dementia and the possible benefits of a vaccine vs. an antibody approach for treatment.  Dr. Verma will explain how United Neuroscience vaccine is different from other vaccines and why he finds hope in their process. Last, they will wrap up with how families and those diagnosed can get involved in finding new treatments for dementia.  Call in and join the conversation!


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Learning a Language Can Be Good for Your Mental Health

 Learning a Language Can Be Good for Your Mental Health

By Christina Comben

Learning a language can have many positive effects on our health and happiness. It’s like taking our brains to the gym! We learn new words and meanings, and the old gray matter benefits from our efforts.

Yep, conjugating verbs and perfecting pronunciation helps to improve our cognitive abilities, stimulate creativity and keep us younger!

When we speak two, three, or more languages, our brains stay active for longer, among other benefits.

Here’s what science has to say:

Scientific Study: Bilingualism Helps You Slow down Dementia

Bilingualism helps slow down dementia, according to one of the biggest studies on the effects of language learning by Edinburgh University and Nizam’s Institute of Medical Sciences in Hyderabad, India.

The study confirms the theory that language learning is a form of mental training. In fact, the most efficient form of training, by now. When you learn a language, you teach your brain to recognize new meanings, sounds and symbols. Your mind learns to think using two different set of rules – defined by grammar and syntax.

You manage to go from one language to another and to think in two different ways. This exercise keeps your brain in good shape and can slow down degenerative processes. This means that bilinguals develop dementia and Alzheimer’s later in life (about 4.5 years later). 

The discovery puts learning a language on top of the most effective therapies for preventing brain degeneration – better than medicine, according to Dr. Thomas Bak, of the Center of Cognitive Aging and Cognitive Epidemiology at the University of Edinburgh.

This news certainly gives new perspectives to linguists and language specialists. Carina Cesano, Managing Director of Clear Words Translations, is fluent in three languages and learning a fourth. She says, “I have always been fascinated by languages, but I didn’t know until recently that they also had surprising benefits for your mental health.”

Language Learning Improves Memory

Another study by the Swedish Armed Forces Interpreter Academy revealed that learning a language can make brains grow! Students who went through an intense language learning program were tested before and after the course. Their brains developed during the 13-month period – the hippocampus and three areas in the cerebral cortex were larger than at the beginning of the study.

The hippocampus is responsible, among other things, for converting short-term memories into long-term memories. And, the cerebral cortex plays an essential role in perception, language, consciousness, attention and memory.

So, by learning a new language, you can improve your long-term memory and work with information better (the so-called working memory). That’s to say, you become more productive, as you analyze situations faster and come up with creative solutions to daily problems.

Learning and memory are linked at deep levels. When learning a language, your brain gets stronger. Its connections become more flexible and the gray matter denser. In the long run, your brain will work more efficiently. Which means you not only improve your memory, but you actually become more intelligent!

This is good news for language lovers! “I can’t look into the future, but what I have already noticed is that my memory has improved since I have been learning other languages,” Cesano enthuses. “I will keep on with my learning as long as possible!”

Learning a Language Helps You to Stay Concentrated on Your Tasks

As you learn to switch from one language to another, you become better at switching between daily tasks, as well. This ability allows you to work on several projects at a time and pass from one activity to another with less effort.

In time, you learn to differentiate the relevant information from fluff and prioritize. This way, you manage to maintain your concentration on things that matter and to ignore distractions. You develop patience, as well, meaning you’ll be able to follow long-term goals without letting yourself get influenced by possible immediate results.

You also learn to listen to people around you. You get better at accepting different points of view. You can also look at challenges from different angles, determining better decisions – in financial, professional, and personal matters.

You Can Start Learning a Language at Any Age

Bilinguals develop a wide series of abilities, no matter when they start learning a second language. A few decades ago, scientist believed that language learning could change brain development only on children.

More recent studies have shown that age is less relevant. People who started studying languages after their 18th birthday registered improved results in intelligence tests, as well. According to Dr. Thomas Bak, bilingualism can help aging brains, even when acquired in adulthood.

In simple words, it’s never too late to learn a new language. It makes you stronger, happier and can even increase self-esteem and self-confidence. You have fun and improve your mental health while discovering new people and new cultures at the same time.  

Christina Comben is a freelance copywriter and columnist, who is also a language lover and world traveler. Fluent in Spanish and French, Christina works with companies in the language services industry, as well as other small businesses, to improve their digital presence. 



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Why Are There Not Enough Caregivers To Help The Elderly

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Why Are There Not Enough Caregivers

To Help The Elderly

   By Carole Larkin, ThirdAge Services 

Today we focus on getting help in the home caring for your elderly loved one (with or without dementia).

This is insider information taken from the leading academic journal in the United States called “Generations”. It is produced by the foremost academic and professional organization in America, The American Society on Aging. All content in their journal is researched and documented by the highest credentialed researchers in Aging topics. For more information on “Generations” and the American Society on Aging go to: www.generationsjournal.org and www.asaging.org. All information in quotation marks is directly from the Spring 2016 issue of Generations. (Volume 40 number 1)

Question: Why are there not enough caregivers to help the elderly (with and without dementia)?

Answer: There are a number of reasons why we in the United States are having trouble getting quality help, or sometimes any help at all to care for our loved ones at home.

  • There is a lack of people available to do home care jobs relative to the number of people who need their services. As you’ve heard over and over again, there are a huge amount of baby boomers now getting old enough to need care, added to the fact that people are living longer than they used to, and they also need care. Baby boomers did not have enough children to replace themselves, so there is a much lower population of people of working age (25-54) to tend to older adults who need help. “demand for direct care staff during 2002 through 2012 rose by 917,000, while demand from 2012 through 2022 is projected to be 1.3 million-a 43 percent increase. What is far less visible is a tectonic shift in the supply of the traditional source of the direct care workers: WOMEN ages 25-54. Between 2012 and 2022 the net number of women entering the workforce will be only 227,000, compared to the net demand increase of 1.3 million direct care positions.”
  • And not every person of the 25-54 years old age group is going to become a home care worker, of course. They’ll be any one of a number of other professions, like doctor, lawyer, teacher, etc. And there is a much worse shortage of these people in rural areas than in the cities, as younger people continue to desert those areas for better paying jobs in the urban areas.
  • Added to all that, the home care jobs themselves are low quality jobs. Very often the pay is low, there are no benefits like health care, or, work schedules are unpredictable and are mostly part-time. “Thus, it is difficult to recruit paraprofessionals from other low wage jobs when those jobs make fewer demands, and pose less risk for injury, or emotional and physical strain.” (Think McDonalds, Walmart, etc.)

Question: What can be done to help fix this situation?

Answer: Well, the most obvious answer is of course to give the home care workers higher pay, more benefits and a more predictable schedule. That would immediately attract more people to those jobs.

Question: Can that be done?

Answer: Aha, now we enter the heart of the matter. Well, in the past and continuing through this moment, there has been no political or societal will to change things. There has been and still is, no value given to the services that home care workers perform for us.

  • Society gets care for free from family members. The thought is why pay others to do the same job and certainly why pay them even more to do the same job? Society takes both sets of care for granted in the past, and even today. Elderly, sick and disabled people don’t contribute to our Gross National Product, so they are a negative force as opposed to a positive force in our economy. There can be no value given to those who care for them. Everyday people would have to change their minds and decide there is value in caring for our elderly, diseased and disabled as opposed to seeing it as a drain on our society. I don’t see that change in attitude happening any time soon. Do you?
  • All the groups in society who can effect change (called “stakeholders”) and who pay for caregivers have no desire to REALLY change the way things are. These “stakeholders” are “Policy makers (the government and politicians), insurers (health insurance companies), employers, and consumers (regular people).” Oh, government may hold hearings, insurance companies may issue a few long term care policies that pay towards agency caregivers, a few employers allow benefits towards caregiving, consumers complain of having no help, but don’t do anything but complain about it. But really none of those things significantly affect the status quo.
  • The government tried to improve pay for a substantial number of homecare workers by having the Department of Labor include them as part of the general workforce for the first time, giving them the right to receive the minimum wage and receive overtime pay when they worked more than 40 hours a week starting January 1, 2015.The Home Care Association of America (both home care companies paid by Medicare and/or Medicaid and home care companies paid by individuals) sued the Department of Labor to stop the rule from being implemented. They lost. The Supreme Court ruled on October 13, 2015 and set enforcement to start 30 days later.

(November 12, 2015.)

  • The companies got around the rule (for the most part) by reducing their caregivers’ hours to less than 40 hours a week, effectively making them part-time employees, not subject to overtime. To be fair, some private companies did ask their clients if they would pay overtime costs to keep their same caregivers over 40 hours a week. Few families decided to pay more money to the caregiving companies, opting to have more caregivers come to their houses to cover caregiving tasks if they had more than 40 hours caregiving time in a week. For many families with a person with dementia, this caused more confusion and upset for the person with dementia suddenly having a stream of people coming in to care for them, instead of just 1 or 2 persons a week. Either way, by homecare company choice, or by family choice, those most vulnerable were hurt. This devaluing of the person with dementia and of the caregiver is happening now, and will continue into the future because there is nothing in place to change it.

So, in summary, expect things on this front to get worse before they get better (if ever) because of a lack of people to do the job, and because the people who do the job are overworked and underpaid. In this instance, it’s fair to say that we are getting what we are paying for.   Are you ready to pay more to get quality caregiving? Think about that.



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A Documentary Film Changing Perceptions Of Dementia

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Tuesday, June 28th, 2016 

 2:00pm EST, 1:00pm CST, 12:00pm MST, 11:00am PST and 7:00pm London


A Documentary Film Changing Perceptions Of Dementia

Today we are lucky to have Lead Producer, Therese Barry-Tanner the documentary film, “Will I Be Next?”   Therese lost her mother to dementia in 2008 and began the project a couple of years later in an effort to promote greater awareness of the disease and reduce stigma.   In addition, we have with us Barbara Goeckner who is feature in the film. This film combines a nice combination of real life living with the dementia, research and dealing with the medical profession.



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Tuesday June 28th

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Dementia Chats™ was created with the intention to educate people living with dementia; their care partners both family and friends as well as professionals and advocates.  Our Experts are those diagnosed with dementia. We have been doing this series since July of 2012, but given we changed platforms in 2016, only those videos are listed below.

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The Path of Alzheimer’s – Why Did It Take So Long?

The Path of Alzheimer’s

by Michael Ellenbogen, living with dementia


Why did it take so long to see the light?

Going down the path of Alzheimer’s is a very terrible role for the person who must take care of them. It’s a road no one wants to take willingly. But when you do it does something to you; you go to a point where there is no return from it. If you have been there you know what I am talking about. The only good news is that there are many others like you who are in the same leaking boat that you can relate to and tap into resource as needed.  They are there to cheer you on or to pick you up from the gutter when the day seems hopeless. Those caregivers form a unique bond. When it’s all said and done they are able to pick themselves up again.

Many just want to forget about all they have gone through, while others continue to help other caregivers to some point. Then there are a few who take the role of being champions and do so much more for the cause.

On the other hand, you have those living with dementia or should I say dying with it. Many can no longer speak to anyone, including their own caregiver. They don’t seem to have the same level of support or resources. This has been going on for so many years. It just seem the caregiver has more available resources than the patient who is actually slowly wasting away. There are so many more caregivers out there defending the caregiver but not enough standing up for the person dying with dementia.

Did you ever wonder why this is?

I have been complaining about this for so many years and been blaming others for why we don’t have resources and people to help us as we go through this slow and painful death. It finally hit me, it’s because the caregivers are the only survivors in this battle.

They went through boot camp. Then the long battle of decline. This has lead to the building of personal feelings and pressures that one had to learn to deal with. This has built some very strong people in the end. When they are finally able to rise again they decide to only help those that went through the same thing as they did. They can relate to their pain they want to forget about the pain their loved one went through. So in the end people like me who are living with dementia have no voice. No one speaks up for them and they continually suffer to the end because none of those caregivers thought about supporting the other side.

Then of course you have all of the organizations that are looking for money and there ongoing support.  While they say they are for Alzheimer’s and other dementias they are really for the caregivers because those are the people that will be around to keep giving them the money in the future. Those of us with dementia don’t seem to matter to them and that is why we keep getting the short end of the stick.

So I guess I will need to plead to all of you to do something to stop this damn disease so that we will not need to chose a sides and all of the organizations will need to adjust their mission statement. Until then I guess all of us with dementia will continue to take a back seat and lose our rights. I can tell you as long as I am alive I will fight to change that. Frankly I am tired of people telling me what they can do for the caregivers.

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Third Mother’s Day Without Mom

Feeling Lost and Privileged

Below is an article I wrote for my first Mother’s Day without Mom.  It was a very healing moment writing about her. I feel it still stands true and maybe, just maybe it will help others on their own healing journey.  I hope  you enjoy it.

By Lori La Bey – copyright 2014

Lori La Bey of Alzheimer's Speaks & Senior Lifestyle Trends

Lori La Bey founder of Alzheimer’s Speaks

Through my mother’s thirty year journey with dementia she continued to guide and teach me; love me in ways I did not know where possible, especially in times of illness.  It’s now been 72 days since mom slipped into the heavens and joined my father. Although I can rationalize her journey on earth is over and she is now in a much better place, free of pain, fully mobile and mind intact; I am struggling.

Today I Will Visit Her Grave Site With My Beautiful Daughter Danielle,

Who Loved Her Grandma So Very Much.

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Going There Gives Me A Sense Of Peace.

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Leave Roses And Balloons In Honor Of Our Relationship And

The Love We Had For One Another.


Throughout My Life, My Mother Has Been My Logical And Loving Conscious.

Mom Was My Rock.


Mom is the one I could always depend on. She was not only my mother, but my best friend.  As my friend Lisa Hirsch titled her book, “My Mother My Hero”  pretty much sums it up!

Through tough times she was my guide and support.

On special occasions we celebrated together.

Mom Taught Me:

To look for the tiniest of things to be grateful for.

To hold a hand out to those in need.

To love deeply.

To consciously make a difference in my life and others.

To work hard and be responsible.

To understand my impact on others; realizing, appreciating and honoring the world is much larger than myself and that we are all interconnected.

To understand that to be a Mother one does not have to have their own child; but rather to be willing to adopt a child in mind, body, heart and soul.

To make a connection and difference in someone’s life, is to be a Mother.


Mom Showed Me How By The Way She Lived Her Own Life.


Leading by example showing me a variety of ways to be a compassionate person.

How to listen to others, not just hear their words.

To look for nonverbal signs of what others truly want or need, when their words were lost or pride held them back.

To look past the everyday judgments and see the whole person standing before me.


Through Illness Mom Taught Me:

To let go of control. To realize it is a mirage, a trap of guilt and pleasure.

To embrace the simplicity of life.

To smile and spread grace.

To love more deeply than I ever knew was possible.

To laugh hard and authentically to embed the moment into my soul.

To look for and create joy in all moments of life, no matter how difficult they are.


To talk openly and honestly with others acknowledging all emotions without embarrassment.

To understand we are all in this life together and that shame, guilt and denial shut us down. Realizing the only way to get past those crunching emotions is to be open, honest and proud you’ve recognized them and what has triggered them; allowing you to move through them. Past them. Over them.

To not only say, “I’m sorry” when wrong, but to change my behavior to avoid it from happening again.

To feel my fear, think of alternatives to remove it and to be brave enough to take action to reclaim the life I envision.

To follow my instincts even when they seem goofy or senseless.

To trust in a higher power than myself, knowing I’m never alone.


To honor everyone’s beliefs.

To realize prestige, money and objects are just things.  They will not make you a better person; until you realize they can be powerful tools to expand your work for the greater good.

She taught me the importance of being person centered and what it truly means – which is how and why I created “Your Memory Chip.”  –  Are they Safe?, Are they Happy? Are The Painfree?

Through All These Lessons And More,

I Find I Still Want Her Back In This Physical World Where I Live.

Some days my heart aches so bad I think it will explode; or maybe, just maybe it will stop beating all together.  I logically believe and know in my heart mom is in a much better place. In heaven with my dad probably dancing and laughing with many friends and family who have also passed.

But Today, My Mind Wonders…

How Long Will The Pain Of Her Loss Last?

My heart longs for the warmth of her being.

My body reaches out to touch and embrace her, wanting to feel the calmness she always gave me.

My soul wants to be in her physical presence.  The presence that grounds me and allows me to feel strong and confident; even when weak.

My nostrils want to take in one last breath of her essence.

My mind wants to create more moments of joy with her.

Yes Today I Will Go To The Cemetery,

Where I Know She Is Not.

Mom’s soul is not limited to the small patch of grass next to her headstone.

Mom is in the air I breathe.

She is in the sunlight that warms me and ignites my growth.

She is the rain that falls, filled with nutrients and washing away the toxins.

She is the snow that chills me and brings a brilliant beauty by white washing this canvas called earth.

She is the sunset that screams at me to be amazed by our God and the beauty which surrounds me.

She is the moon that calls me to reflect, regenerate and give gratitude for the life I am blessed to live.

Mom, on this Mother’s day I honor you,

and all Mothers who have warmed a child’s heart, taught us soul lessons, loved us unconditionally as we have taken missteps, stumbled and fallen.

To all women who have been then there to pick us up and wipe us off.

Who have kissed a booboo.

Given a hug when we have felt unworthy.

Who sat silently in our presence when no words were needed to make us feel safe and loved.

To your hand, when you reached out to let us know we are not alone.

To your words of encouragement when we were down.

To your thoughtful and thoughtless

celebration when we finally got it right!

Each Mother is special.

An “Earth Angel” Guiding Us In This Physical World.

Thank you to all Mother’s, for who you are and what you do for the world at large.

Thank you Mom for all you taught me.

All you gave me.

All you continue to give me from the other side.

Your continued connection through dreams and through our souls has been a beautiful gift to me.

May Your Mother’s Day Be blessed. 

May You Hear The Love My Heart Sings For You.

heart on sheet music

I thought I would add this short video, one of many, which means the world to me.  It’s of my mom singing in her end stages.

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